It was either sink or swim and I wanted to fly

I always had a feeling in my past relationships, that I better do anything and everything I could to hold on tight. If things ended I would be alone again and that would last until I got “lucky enough” to get another girlfriend.
Years later I think because I didn’t have a stable family growing up, I was always searching for a girl to be my rock. Someone who would always be there for me and have my back. My parents divorced when I was young, my mom got married a few times after my dad, and one of the guys was pretty bad (drugs, abusive, and all I want to make public)
Now that my marriage was over, my house gone, feeling like damaged goods, almost no one in my life, and just being stood up on New Year’s Eve, I came to a realization

It was either sink or swim and I wanted to fly.

Even though I ended up finding a cool place to live, I didn’t just want to swim, which to me meant just keeping me head high enough from drowning, I wanted more.
I wasn’t happy with who I was and who I had become.
What I had been doing in my life didn’t lead me to happiness or given me the results I wanted.
So I decided that I needed to start working on the areas and aspects of my life that I had been avoiding. I began to exercise and eat healthier I also changed my look.

  • No fast food -and if I did falter I would just grab a burrito, not the 2-3 meals worth I normally got
  • Muscle milk or Dymatize protein shakes -chocolate with a scoop of peanut butter is pretty tasty!
  • Kettlebell -a cannonball with a handle, it was now being used religiously
  • Clothes shopping -something I use to hate, now I would go every few weeks and add 1-2 items
  • Hair -I dressed up in my cool clothes and went to a high end saloon and said “make it cool”

In a pretty short time frame I went from looking and dressing sloppy, to feeling 100 times healthier and dressing a thousand times cooler.  The confidence I gained from that was sinking in, but I needed to do more. If not all it would take is my clothes and hair to go out of style and me getting fat to loose the ground I had gained.
-next time, how I began working on what I would learn to call my “inner game” AND an update from the chick who stood me up!

8 thoughts on “It was either sink or swim and I wanted to fly

  1. This is a truly imspiring story. I also use to rely on luck for alot of things and when it came to women, alot of it. In high school I never had a single date. In college it was the same thing. My parents also divorced when I was young and I never had any guidance.
    One day I decided to try talking to a pick up artist but wanted to talk to someone who I respected and was the real deal. After searching intensely I found Bravo. I set up a few phone coaching sessions with him and he turned out to be a very cool and knowledgable guy. You can tell by the way he talks and expresses himself that he really loves teaching and is passionate about what he does.
    I also remember what I learned from Martial Arts. True knowledge comes from many different sources. If you ever have a chance to talk to Bravo, do it. You won’t regret it.

  2. This reads just like the way things have panned out for me in the past 6 or so months…. Ironically, the next post is currently where I am stuck at.
    Always an inspiration Bravo.
    Thank You.

  3. Cliff hanger, but concisely written. Its been some rainy days in LA and I think its forcing us all to work on our inner game and do some more writing— I know I have.
    Its kinda funny, Bravo and I have very similar backgrounds, but I’ve always been on the scrawny size tryin to pack the pounds. Been usin’ Gold Standard Whey before and after workouts and in the evening. Highly recommended.
    Onwards to a GOLD Badge. If you guys haven’t supported the site yet. Do it. Read my post on meeting Bravo. Also if anyone else is in LA, let’s hang after Christmas and do some sarging!

  4. HA!
    I have actually tried to reproduce that roasted garlic from the steakhouse on my own several time…I never even get close!

  5. This is one of my favorite quotes from you and I use it religiously. I remember seeing the “fat Bravo” picture and it was interesting on how you changed you life completely around from it.
    I remember feeling the exact same way as the first paragraph, ironically now it tends to be the other way around with the girls trying to hold onto me 🙂 yet again, thanks to Bravo.
    On Bravo’s eating habits when I was around he showed good control except when it came to roasted garlic lol

  6. Thanks for the kind words guys.
    and to expand on the fast food part, seriously I would hit the drive thru and get a triple bacon burger, a chicken sandwich, fries, onion rings, and chicken strips
    with a large diet coke (that made it all right)
    and eat it all for lunch
    even at the old SLA office I could still go to subway and eat 2 footlong subs and not be stuffed after…almost every day is a struggle not to be fat and bedridden- LOL

  7. These FUCKING cliffhangers!
    I love reading PUA turn-around stories. So much motivation & inspiration behind it.

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