So you want to be a PUA Coach?
Think it’s time I write something about this. The amount of messages I am getting asking the SAME question is insane.
Seems like many guys think they have what it takes to do what I do……. or at least think they do.
Also seems like many guys think I should come out to THEM to see their stuff…….
If you guys read THE GAME, think about how all the main guys got to that point where others were asking them to teach them?
Go out and sarge, try crazy shit, crash and burn, have insane nights out and Field Reports. Get on a forum and get advice when you need it. HELP others who need it. Get your skills honed to a fucking razor’s edge. Get back on the forums and help more people out. Get KNOWN, get a rep for giving out solid advice. Have posts that coaches can go and read and see where you are coming from and where you have been. Let us see you helping out your brother’s as they are trying to learn this amazing art.
Just because you have solid game doesn’t mean you can teach for shit. I have known MANY amazing martial artists, shooters, and talented men who cannot for the life of them teach it, usually they are the first to admit that.
I also know guys who are decent but AMAZING instructors.
I happen to be both.
You need to talk the talk and walk it. But you also need to be able to work with someone and see where they need help, break it down so they can understand it, and give them what they need to succeed.
I did some mini workshops with friends to bring them up to speed so they could roll with us when we would go out back in the day before I even DREAMED of doing this as a job.
It took me almost a year of going out 3-4 nights a week, then staying up till like 5am debriefing with my wing, to get to this point. Meeting up with guys on from the forum, going out with them, helping them break through sticking points. Then adding more guys to our crew and helping them after.
It has been the most rewarding and demanding job I have ever had the honor of. Helping guys learn lessons that I had to the hard way, saving them time and grief, helping them become the men they always wanted to be, getting the girlfriend of their dreams, and more….is a pretty sweet gig. I go to bed each night knowing that I made a positive difference in this world. (The rub is it takes even MORE time away from my personal life, so I have less time to work on these things!)
I worked my way up through the ranks. Went to a seminar, met Neil Strauss (Style) and was asked to come on board. Worked up from a Junior Coach, spoke at conferences, taught bootcamps, and made it to Senior Coach and was asked to move out to L.A. to work full time with Stylelife. A while later after running seminars and bootcamps I was promoted to Executive Coach and was in charge of the coaching cadre. In 2010 I formed my own company.
I already have our eye on some up and comers. They are getting out there and kicking ass, posting on my forum, helping out their fellow men. I only consider guys who I have met and have proven themselves as solid.
originally posted Jan 4, 2008 comments copied over
Awesome post and Smooth, awesome response.
Bravo ! ur an inspiration to us guys who think we got game , but we really don’t ! n yes its true wat u say about teaching !
I want to confirm what Bravo is saying here.
So, you want to be a PU coach?
First, stop sending this guy emails. Second, get out in the field. AND take other guys with you — if you are good at PU AND good at coaching (two different things) your reputation will get around.
You won’t need to send anybody any emails ASKING to be a coach. They will look for you.
I know for a fact that’s how Bravo did it.
I went out with Bravo and Gypsy and about a dozen other guys one night about 6 or 7 months ago. They were not yet doing coaching full time. Nobody was paying them that night. I watched them devote themselves to helping the other guys that night — when they could have been gaming and getting women for themselves, they were giving pointers to the other guys; jumping into sets when guys were crashing; debriefing guys after sets; pushing guys to go past their sticking points; and generally putting their own self interests aside in order to help others.
The other guys I met that night told me of the many times Bravo and Gypsy had gone out with them and coached them.
On top of that, Bravo and Gypsy together have some techniques and theories for winging that I’ve never heard anyone else talk about and then field test. They might be the best two wingmen I’ve ever seen in action.
Very good! Most people think learning skills like this happens over night. It Don’t!
Amen, Bravo. Well said. Sounds like you’ve put tons of work into getting to the place you are now. It’s all about the journey, right?
Glad you made the move, huh? 😉 I knew that weekend that you’d be awesome at this job. Proud of you!
If I thought I was better then you, you would already know. BTW Thanks for getting me on the right path.