“It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see.” – Henry David Thoureau
When out “in-field” with a student during a 1on1, this is always one of the biggest sticking points they have to overcome. Learning how to actually SEE what is in front of them.
Maybe it was the years of martial arts and firearms training I did before ever reading The Game, but this wasn’t something I struggled with. It wasn’t until I was teaching full time that I realized so many problems that guys have are rooted in this, so figured out how to break things down so they could level up
Thinking a woman is interested in what you are talking about (she isn’t if her body language is leaning away, looking around, and her facial expressions are short and forced).
Missing out on the woman who IS checking you out and trying to eavesdrop on your conversation. (She keeps looking at you, let’s our a small smile when you say something funny)
Or missing the giant cue that a woman is cool talking to you that you opened up at the bar (she went from facing the bartender/straight ahead to slowing facing you completely, one of the most obvious body languages signs )
Are just some examples-
So here is a new podcast clip for you guys, from last weeks Online Game 5.0 Coaching Call, where I went over this more in depth, and how this is 1 of 3 of the perspectives you need to think about.
Let me know if this opens your eyes and helps you on your dating journey, and keep an eye out for Part 2 and Part 3!